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Say Farewell Your Way: A Funeral Planning Guide for Ireland

Say Farewell Your Way: A Funeral Planning Guide for Ireland
Our Price:  €12.95(VAT Free)

ISBNs:  9781781190838 Pb / 0845 ePub
Year Published:  2011
Author:  Jennifer Muldowney
Paperback:  12.95
ePub ebook:  7.75


There are three situations in which you may find yourself planning a funeral and hence reading this book:

  • A loved one has passed away suddenly;
  • A loved one has been diagnosed as terminally ill;
  • You wish to pre-plan your own funeral.

Despite the fact that human beings have a 100% mortality rate, most people in Ireland act as if even talking about end-of-life planning causes people to die!

A funeral is both a beginning and an ending, where the end symbolises that the journey from birth to death has been completed and the beginning symbolises the recovery and renewal process for the loved ones still living.

The main purpose of SAY FAREWELL YOUR WAY is to encourage conversation about death, dying, funerals and loss in Ireland today and, hopefully, to open your minds to the endless possibilities there are when it comes to funerals. It aims to inspire independent individuals to celebrate and take control of the last memory they will leave loved ones.


1         Introduction

Part 1: Arranging the Funeral of a Loved One      

2         First Steps

3         Making Funeral Arrangements

4         Do-It-Yourself Funerals

5         Religion

6         The Funeral Reception

7         Funeral Directors & Undertakers

8         The Final Resting Place

9         Celebrating a Life

10       Eulogies

11       An Online Legacy

12       Costs & Finance

13       Legal Issues

14       An Irish Wake

15       Funeral Etiquette

16       After the Funeral

Part 2: Pre-planning Your Own Funeral     

17       Why Pre-plan?

18       Pre-planning Your Own Funeral

19       Your Financial & Legal Affairs

20       Personalising Your Funeral

21       Burial Plots

22       Cremation

23       Alternative Funerals

24       Organ Donation

25       Your Online Legacy


1         Checklists

2         Crematoria

3         Useful Contacts

4         Your Information

5         Your Pre-plan


Despite the fact that death is the one guaranteed event in everyone’s life, many people in Ireland feel uncomfortable about discussing death, and how to handle it. A new book, SAY FAREWELL YOUR WAY, aims to change all that. Written by Jennifer Muldowney, it is full of practical information on digital legacies, traditional funerals, cremations, organ donation and alternative funerals and casts a refreshing light on a taboo subject.

In a recent survey, it was revealed that almost two thirds of participants had not thought about their funeral wishes. Jennifer hopes to encourage conversation about death, dying and loss in Ireland today.

Ireland’s Own


According to Irish Times' writer Colette Sheridan, after interviewing Jennifer Muldowney, author of SAY FAREWELL YOUR WAY, ‘Planning your own funeral may seem morbid but it’s actually a thoughtful and organised exercise that will save your next-of-kin a whole lot of trouble.’

This is a recently published book which deals with the issue of funeral planning. The author is a 30 year old woman who lives in Dublin and who runs a specialist funeral business planning funerals. Although she did not grow up surrounded by death and neither has she lost a large number of people close to her, she considers herself to be a reflective and thoughtful person.

This book is a product of her reflection on contemporary funeral planning and explores how one might be guided or directed to deal with practical matters at at time when one is easily and understandably distracted by grief and pain. The purpose of her book she states is ‘not to frighten’ but rather to ‘prepare’. Muldowney asserts that is only when one accepts that death is a reality and can happen to any of us, at any time that one truly begins to live.

Written in a simple and straight-forward manner, this book looks comprehensively at the many issues that a person is faced with when either planning their own funeral or that of a loved one. Muldowney includes a lot of practical advice and direction on sever aspects of funeral arrangements, ranging from: choosing a burial place – whether to bury a person or have them cremated; ought there to be a eulogy at the service or not; to what kind of food might be served after the service. Moreover, her book reminds the reader of the many legal items that need to be attended to immediately after a death and indeed in the longer term.

In chapter two, Muldowney states that if one is reading the book then it is likely that someone close to the reader has just died. Although this could be true, it is doubtful that the first thing anyone would do in the immediate aftermath of a death, is grab a book, any book to read. Although she includes information here at this point about contacting doctors, solicitors, the Gardaí, it is highly probable that this will have already been done before a person would come to read this book. What follows on from that chapter would however be useful to someone who had been bereaved,

In conclusion, I contend that this is quite a useful resource for parishes, funeral directors and anyone considering pre-planning a funeral.

The Carer